Day Game in Orlando

Orlando is not a walking city; you pretty much have to drive everywhere to be anywhere. So to do day game and meet women, you’ll have to drive to the bookstores or drive to the malls.

Fortunately, Orlando has some big malls and some nice bookstores, so that’s a plus. But if you like to feel like you’re in a real city like Tokyo or London, Orlando isn’t the place to be.

Night game in Orlando

“Pleasure Island” at Walk Disney World, unfortunately, has closed down for the moment and is being renovated.

Universal has “City Walk”, which has a bunch of bars and clubs in an outdoor mall-like atmosphere. But I’ve found it’s typically dead even on Friday’s and Saturday’s. So it’s a real hit or miss thing there.

The best place to go is the Orlando downtown area. There you’ll find lots of local young women. The plus is that they’re pretty friendly and open. On the negative, my take is that the women in the Miami / Ft. Lauderdale area are generally hotter, with far more 9s and 8s than in Orlando.

Overall judgment

Pick up opportunities, both day time and night time, are decently average. But if you want to meet super hotties (like the 10’s), your pickings will be slim.

To begin with, Madrid is a true walking city. You can walk all over and the subway trains take you everywhere you want to go. So you’re constantly bumping into women going here and there or waiting for the train.

The night life is off the hook; it seems like everyone goes out at night and parties until dawn. Even the old people spill out into the streets and hit up the restaurants. There’s just tons of bars and parties spread out all over the city. Those Spaniards know how to party.

Now a review of the girls. Most of the women are thin, skinny, and white with dark hair. I tend to like tanned women with curves, so the stick skinny girls of Madrid are not exactly my type. But if you like pale, skinny girls with dark hair, you’ll find them plentiful there.

Since I speak some Spanish, that helped me out a lot. I found the women there pretty friendly, if you approach them. You should do the 90 day Spanish course from Pimpsleur before you go over there, because English is not commonly spoken by everyone.

Another great thing about Madrid is that it’s relatively cheap compared to the rest of Western Europe.

Overall, you should definitely check the city out for the lively night life and the friendly women.

South Beach is actually a man-made barrier island between the city of Miami and the Atlantic Ocean. You can go back and forth between South Beach and Miami by driving over a very long bridge. So South Beach has its own culture that is distinct from the rest of Miami.

For one, you can get around South Beach walking, whereas in Miami you need a car. Which is pretty cool because you can walk between the beach, clubs, bars, and restaurants, and back to your hotel.

During March, the beach swells with girls on Spring Break – it’s literally wall to wall college girls in bikinis covering the beach – and it’s a BIG beach.

There’s a strip of clubs and bars too.

Now the downsides.

It’s a pretty expensive place. Hotels run at minimum about $150 per night, and it’s far more expensive during events like Spring Break. There are two or three hostels, but they’re not that great, lack privacy, and can be overcrowded.

In summer it’s HOT and HUMID. Like disgustingly “I don’t want to go outside” humid.

It’s not exactly a tropical paradise. The beaches are white and set back from the road, but the place is highly developed for tourists. There’s not much natural beauty there.

The club entrances can be extensive ($20 to $40) and there’s often long lines to get inside (like 1 to 2 hours of waiting outside). You can avoid the lines if you have a bunch of girls with you, and even then it’s not always guaranteed.

Sometimes the clubs can be packed with guys too – like 3 guys to every girl.

Drug use is big and some of the girls will be high as kites.

The women are not particularly friendly.  Not mean.  But not really friendly either.  Picking up by being a laid back, “nice guy” won’t cut it.  Expect blow out after blow out and stay in the set no matter what until you turn them around.  It’s intense and a rush, but don’t expect to just breeze on in and pull girls with little effort.

If you can get into an exclusive party or a roped off VIP area, there can be a lot of beautiful women. But if you’re in the normal area of a club or in a general nightclub, I found that the women aren’t that attractive. Unless you’re a VIP, the 9’s and 10’s, and often even the 8’s, will be roped off from you.

You’ll find a lot of guys who save up there year’s savings so that one weekend they can splurge and burn all their money renting a Ferrari and trying to pickup girls, but end up buying prostitutes.  You’ll meet a lot of strange characters.

Generally I would call South Beach the most overrated club scene in the world I’ve been to – meaning that the hype the marketers generate for it as being a great place to meet hot women far exceeds the actually reality. The whole club scene more resembles a way to fleece horny young tourist guys of their money.

As for day game, most of the girls walking the streets aren’t particularly beautiful. There’s a lot of homeless people and drug junkies. It depends on what time of the year it is, and if it’s a busy tourist weekend, in which case you’ll find a lot more girls who flew in for the weekend.

Really, the best place to pickup women is on the beach itself. If you wake up early as the sun is rising, or later in the evening when the sun is not so intense, and you have SOLID beach game, you can meet more attractive women that way.

If you decide to move to South Beach to LIVE year round, that can solve some of the problems. If you’re game is good, you can meet the right people and get the connections into the VIP areas and so on. Still, summers are brutal hot, and many winter days are too cold for the beach. And even when you meet a girl, most of them leave a few days later since they’re all on vacation. The people I know who moved there all moved away after a year for one reason or another.

If you want to get laid on Spring Break, I would recommend going to Cancun instead. If you want relaxing beaches and nature, go to Costa Rica. If you want a Latin nightlife experience, go to the city of Miami or Costa Rica. South Beach, while it has positives for it, generally isn’t worth it when you’ve got so many other options.

Then again, you might love it there… some people do.  Everyone is different.  That’s just my take.

#1. Cuddle After Sex

If you’re not spending at least fifteen minutes in “afterglow cuddling” with a woman after sex, start doing it.  Use a watch and time it to make sure you meet the minimum time requirement.

I’m not talking about lying next to her, but being WITH her – cuddling, caressing, whispering, or even a back massage.  If you touch, kiss, and cuddle after you orgasm, she won’t get that letdown feeling.

This is your time to reward her with connection for how responsive she was in bed.  Tell her how connected you feel to her.

You don’t have to cuddle after sex every time.  But fifteen minutes on average is a good rule of thumb.

#2. Be Discreet

The fear that you will tell your friends about sex will make her sexually inhibited.  If a woman hears that you were bragging about your exploits with her, it will damage her trust in you permanently and your potential to mold her into a sexually fun and free woman will be over.

Less is more when it comes to talking about sex to others.

#3. Never Judge Her

Never judge a woman adversely for anything that she does sexually.

The fastest way to shut a woman down is to demonstrate that she’s lost status in your eyes when she shows her sexuality.  Sexual openness should always be something that you admire in a woman, not condemn.

Make it clear that you think that the traditional system of values where a man is admired for having a lot of sex but a woman is condemned is hypocritical and ridiculous.

#4. Never Compare Her

NEVER compare a woman to past lovers.

Not only is this downright mean and thoughtless, it makes it harder for her to let go of her inhibitions and open herself up to you.

Never ever point out the flaws in a woman.  Women are already acutely aware of their flaws.  Don’t get linked to them.

Your woman needs to feel confident and good about her sexuality, even if she’s not perfect yet.

Instead, point out the best in her.  Then you get linked to everything she likes about herself.  This encouragement will allow her to grow and improve more than any criticisms.

#5. Sex is Not Conditional

Sex should never be conditional.

If she tells you, “I want more cuddling after sex,” never tell her, “Well give me more blowjobs if you want more cuddling.”  With time, this will make her grow to hate you.

#6. Don’t Push Her to Orgasm

Orgasm is important for a woman.  It releases all sorts of good brain chemicals, instilling joy and loyalty.

But for a woman orgasm is not the sole purpose of sex.  And sex without orgasm is not automatically the frustrating disappointment that it would be to a man.

Many women cannot reach orgasm through normal intercourse.  By focusing on it if she’s having trouble reaching one, you make her feel inadequate.

Rather, your focus should be on having fun and sexual expansion, with orgasms simply a happy byproduct of that.

Once she’s reassured that there’s nothing “wrong” with her, the pressure will be off and she’ll feel free to surrender, let go, and her orgasm will come in its own time.

#7. Don’t Tune Out During Sex

Don’t fantasize to yourself or “space out” during sex.

Some guys have orgasm by closing their eyes and shutting out the woman to focus on the sensations.

You may be on her, but you’re not WITH her if you’re lost in fantasy inside your own head.

Some men don’t realize that their mind is wandering while they’re having sex.  It occurs so often that they just take it for granted.

Don’t use a woman to create novelty in your head because you aren’t innovating in the bed.  Don’t fantasize to tune out.  Rather, use your fantasies to tune in.

In the Blissnosis program I’ll show you exactly how to involve your woman in your fantasies, and to share them together and make her an active participant.

#8. Don’t Make Demands

Never make demands to get what you want from a woman in the bedroom.

Out of utter frustration you might tell her, “I’m giving you a choice.  You can either give me a blow job right now or after we watch some television together, but you are NOT going to sleep.”

Yes, making a demand may work temporarily.  Particularly when a relationship is young and new and your woman is in love, your woman is more likely to submit to demands.

But although a selfish demand seems to work in the short run and you get your way, it’ll make it less likely for a woman to do it next time.

When people are forced to do something they don’t want to do they develop a negative emotional reaction to the very thought of it.  It takes the form of a sick feeling in the pit of their stomach whenever thinking about having to do it.

Demands at best work in the short term only.  Demands may get the job done in the present but they sabotage the future because of the aversive reaction and rebelliousness they create in a woman.

For example, when you demand sex from a woman, she’s likely to develop a sexual aversion to you.  She’ll want to avoid sex more and more making you increasingly frustrated to get it.

So never make demands as a shortcut; patience in the normal course of Blissnosis is the way to go.

#9. Never Lose Your Cool

When a woman feels secure and cared about, she can be turned on about being fucked in every conceivable manner while having her hair pulled and her ass slapped.  She can even be turned on about watching her man have sex with other women.

For that to happen though, she needs to feel you are a man who will protect her when she needs to be protected.

That’s why you must never become angry, loose your temper, or attempt to punish her.  If you do, then you don’t control the situation and you yourself are out of control.

Angry outbursts in a relationship should be avoided at all costs, because they represent an extreme form of abuse.  When you fly into a rage with condemnations or obscenities or merely yell, you have become her greatest threat.

When that happens, she will lose all respect for you.  The magic will be over and finished with.

As soon as you tell her that you’re displeased, even in a calm tone, she will have a line of excuses to defend herself.  She’ll try to rationalize her behavior and see you as me versus him.  She’ll associate and anchor to you defensive, negative feelings.

You are her protector so she has to know absolutely you will not emotionally harm her.  Always respect her feelings.  Always think about how what you do and what you say will affect her feelings.  No mistake your woman makes should ever be viewed as an excuse to get angry.

This means that when you feel irritated, instead of venting out your anger, walk away.  Leave the situation that’s causing you to be angry, even if it means leaving your woman for a while.

#10. Apologize for Real Mistakes

If you accidentally hurt her feelings, she feels her power has diminished.  Restore her power immediately.

Give her a sincere apology, take full responsibility for your actions, show remorse for your errors, and suggest to her how it will never happen again.

This is not supplication or being a Wuss.  Quite the contrary, this is being a Man.

Occasional mistakes will not diminish you in her eyes as long as they’re seen as mistakes.  An apology quickly heals the wound.

But apologies are only as effective as your ability to follow them through.

When a mistake turns into a habit, repeated again and again, your relationship is at risk.

Bad habits will kill your relationship much more quickly than single mistakes.  Be aware that apologies will mean very little to her when you’re not acting congruently with your promises to stop.

#11. Get the Blissnosis Program

In the Blissnosis 2010 Program you learn not only what to do in bed, but how to directly tap into women’s sexual fantasies and train women to be great girlfriends.  Even to the point of building a Circle of fun, cool, sexually free and fun girls.

Check Blissnosis out by clicking right HERE.

First, I don’t find Japanese women to be particularly attractive amongst Asians.  They tend to be pale skinned with bad teeth.  However, you can always find cuter Japanese women and the being in Japan, the numbers are on your side.

Typical looking young women from Japan

First, what’s cool about Japan is the slightly nerdy culture.  They’re into comic books and video games, and if that’s your style that’s great because even most of the girls are into this stuff.  So if you’re looking for a “nerd girl” who is cute, Japan might have what you’re looking for.

In addition, the women are sexually liberal (often having more than one boyfriend or lover at once) and you’ll stick out so much as a Caucasian that you’ll literally get stared down sometimes.

I was there for two weeks, and on two occasions I had a woman come up to me and directly ask me if I’d be her boyfriend.  One of the girls was like 16 years old (I think) and I told her no out of fear of being arrested lol.

A more idealized Japanese look

The clubbing district in Tokyo, Shinjuku, is HUGE.  It’s like a city unto itself.  With tons of young people filling the streets.  It’s a bit like the strip in Las Vegas with tall buildings and lights, but about ten times bigger (from what I remember).

There’s another clubbing district called Roppongi.  This is where all the foreigners go and all the girls looking to hook up with foreigners.  It’s smaller than Shinjuku by far, but still decent.

I had no game at the time and couldn’t speak ANY Japanese, so I was pretty clueless.  However, I talked with another guy about 30 years of age who spoke a little Japanese and he said that he had slept with a different girl each night the past week.  Girls pretty much went up to him.  I didn’t doubt him based on my limited experience there.

The Shinjuku district in Tokyo

There are women pretty much everywhere.  People don’t drive in Tokyo, they take the trains which are fast, efficient, and go everywhere.  The streets are packed with people.  So you just run into young women literally every second.

What’s nice about Japanese women is that they tend to be submissive and kinky.  Especially if you’re a Caucasian, you can get away with a lot of shit.

Japan itself too is a really beautiful country with great parks, temples, and mountains to visit.  And cool trains.

The city of Tokyo and Kyoto are clean and there’s virtually no crime.

You can probably also get a job there teaching English or something…

If you love Asian girls, it’s a great place to go.  If you’re ambivalent about Asian girls, it’s a terrible place to go because 99.9% of the girls all look the same.

If you like meaty girls with breasts and butt, don’t go to Japan.  All the women are skinny.

And the guys are total Wusses in general – so if you do approaches you’ll stand out even more and it will be like shooting fish in a barrel… assuming you speak some Japanese.

That’s the thing though, definitely learn Japanese before you go!

What the day game is like

Since most people don’t have cars, they walk or take the train or buses.  So there are TONS of people out on the streets making Medellin excellent for doing day game.  Even better, there’s a clean, fast, and efficient train that runs all the way through the city from one end to the other making it easy (and cheap) to get anywhere in the city.

The train itself has loads of attractive young ladies.

The downtown of Medellin is a good place to meet women.  And the upscale neighborhoods like Pobablo have the more middle class women.  There’s plenty of “second tier” neighborhoods crawling with women too.

Medellin has four or five shopping Malls which are just like anything you’d find in the United States too, full of women.

As long as you stick with the 7 or 8 better neighborhoods, you’ll be perfectly safe.

And because Medellin has year round beautiful Spring-like weather, any day of the year is great for going out.

For weather, logistics, and sheer number of women out on the streets, Medellin gets an A for day game.

GRADE: A

What the nightlife is like

I wasn’t so impressed with the nightlife.  First of all, it costs money for taxis, alcohol, and cover which keeps many of the women away.  I actually found the hottest women out on the streets and not in the clubs.

Club Mango’s, in Medellin

And upscale places like Mango’s can easily run you $100 USD for a table.  Ouch!

If you want nightlife in Colombia, the city of Cartagena is better than Medellin.

GRADE: B-

What the women are like

Thin and attractive.  You will see some real stunners.  Medellin women generally work hard to look attractive.

I saw a few 9s and 10s.  But most of the women I would rate 7 or 8.

You’ll find a few golden tanned blondes, but not many.  Most of the women are either cinnamon tan or white with dark hair.

As an American or European there, you’re a rarity.  And a hot commodity.  The women will take quick notice of you and it’s a big plus.  If you dye your hair blonde and put in blue colored contact you’ll be even more heavily noticed.

Breast enhancement is popular among upper class women. These girls are from Mango’s, an expensive club

You can check out the Medellin women on the Medellin dating agency ColombianSweethearts here to get an idea of what the girls look like.  But don’t use an agency; just do pickup.  It’s easier, you have more choice, and you don’t pay anything.

Positives about the city

Medellin is SAFE.  Even though you might think of Colombia as being dangerous, Medellin is very safe.  I never felt in danger, not even remotely.  Much of the city is very modern, clean, and green.  Since Pablo Escobar was killed 15 years ago, the drug trade has moved out of Medellin and into the jungle thousands of miles away.

You can get a furnished one bedroom apartment in the nicest neighborhood Poblado, with Internet and a month-to-month lease for about $900 USD monthly.

Taxis are like $2 and plentiful, so no need to have your own car.  Food is cheap…. $5 for a good meal at a restaurant.  They have McDonald’s and Subway and all that too.

Middle class Medellin women at one of the upscale malls

Beautiful, year round weather.  Medellin is called “The City of Eternal Spring”, because it has its own micro-climate being in the mountains.  Every day you have pretty nice weather, great for being outdoors.  No cold winters and no humid summers.

Negatives about the city

Parts of the city have air pollution, noise pollution, and are yuck – the poorer areas.  No reason to go to those areas unless you’re curious.

More tips

Learn Spanish.  If you’re Spanish sucks, you’ll have trouble meeting women, even if the girls are attracted to you.  Take the 90 lesson Pimpsleur course before you go and you’ll be set.  Don’t slack off on this point – it will make all the difference.

Learn game here in the U.S. or Europe before you go.  It will be a big help over there, and with even 30% game, the balls to approach, and Spanish under your belt it will be a breeze.  If you can’t approach though, the girls will NOT approach you and you’ll be treading water nowhere.  So get the balls to approach!!

How does Medellin, Colombia compare to Florianopolis, Brazil?

I liked Florianopolis more, overall because Florianopolis has beaches and girls in bikinis, which Medellin doesn’t have.  Florianopolis has more nature and water activities.  And while Medellin is pretty safe, Florianopolis is even safer.

BUT Medellin is beautiful and nice all year round, while Florianopolis is only hopping for 3 months, in summer (December, Jan, Feb).  So it all depends on what time of year it is!

They also found that taking a self-shot of yourself with your phone or webcam did slightly better for men than standard photos.

They found that guys who took off their shirts and had great abs got more responses than men who kept their shirts on.

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For instance, Dolphins are one of the few species that has sex for pleasure and will have homosexual sex and try to hump other species.

Or that a Queen honeybee will mate with 40 male drones at a time…

Here’s a list of the most promiscuous mammal species.

That means you need to get her ALONE and isolate the girl away from her friends.

True, while you needed to engage the entire group to establish high social value, once you have that, her friends and being part of the group will actually HINDER the bond and connection phase of the seduction.  After all, just minutes ago you were entertaining her friends, but now you have to ignore them to focus on the girl you like.

And if you do that, her friends will quickly get BORED while you build comfort with the girl you like.  They might even get JEALOUS. They’ll want to win back your attention by interrupting and distracting you. They’ll try everything in their power to break up your one-on-one interaction with the girl you like and pull you back into the building social value phase. Or they might even pull your girl away from you and leave once they realize that they’re no longer the center of attention.

Let’s look at the awkward position of the girl you like. Women will only go so far with you as long as she’s in sight of her friends. As long as she knows her friends are around, the infamous “slut factor” kicks in. Most women want to avoid being categorized as a “slut” at all costs. Usually the only thought holding a woman back from getting freaky on you is, “What would my friends think of me?”

You can better understand the social pressures women face if you step into their shoes. Just imagine if you were with a hot babe on the dance floor – but – your parents were in the corner watching your every move. Would you feel comfortable simply grabbing and groping her backside and tongue lashing her mouth?

This doesn’t mean that women don’t want sex. Women DO want sex. And good sex, if they can get it. Why do you think half of American girls make their trip to Spring Break Mecca every year? Down South their family and friends are two thousand miles away. The social norms are out the window. All of their old anchors are gone. They’re free to go wild and crazy and have sex without being labeled a slut. So they just go for it.

Just as on Spring Break, you always must isolate the girl you’re seducing from her friends. You must get her alone and into your world and into your world alone.

So at this point, you will need to SEPARATE the girl you like from her friends, no ifs ands or buts.

Fortunately, to isolate the girl is rather easy to accomplish.

First tell the girl you like, “Hey, I have the coolest thing I’ve just got to show you this…”

This is a curiosity hook.  She’ll ask you, “What is it?”

Tell her that you can’t show her here… it’s too loud or that you need to show her in private.

Now she’s ready to go with you.  But you can’t take her just yet.

You have to neutralize any potential objections from her group of friends that you’ll be stealing her away for a moment.  To do this, tell her friends, “Your friend and I like each other.  I’m going to just borrow her for a few minutes.  That’s cool with you guys.”

Telling her group, “Your friend and I like each other,” may seem bold, but it should actually be based on fact at this point.  After all, she’s already given you repeated signs of interest and you’ve accepted her back.

So when you tell her friends, “Your friend and I like each other,” the girl you like should give you no resistance.

Telling her group, “I’m going to just borrow her for a few minutes,” simply paces the action so that they’re not surprised when she disappears and that line prevents them from looking for her or chasing after her.

And telling the group, “That’s cool with you guys,” gets her group’s verbal, explicit permission for you to snatch her away and neutralizes any cock-blocking they might otherwise give you.  And if you’ve properly demonstrated social value and the girl likes you, it’s highly unlikely that her friends will say no.  And then you’ve successfully isolated the girl.

Do the math: now that you’ve increased your social value and lowered hers, she’ll be looking for your acceptance of her.  The only way she can get her social value back is by winning your acceptance and winning your attention and respect.

That means if you start qualifying her and testing, she’ll be eager to pass your screening tests to win your acceptance.

For example, you could say to her, “You know I like you, but you’re not a stalker are you? You’re not the type who checks her messages five times a day, will call me in the middle of the night are you? Will I be safe around you?”

When qualifying a woman, you establish that YOU are the chooser and that SHE is the chaser. She must work for and win your approval and acceptance of her.

You can screen a woman on just about anything, but what often works best is screening her based on completely trivial qualities.

For example you could say to woman, “I can just tell you would be so much trouble for me. I can see it in those eyes. You just look like a handful. How do I know you won’t just drive me up the wall?”

Or you could say, “You look young for me. Hmm, what else do you have going for you that would make up for that?”

The key is to sound playful and not too serious. Wear a smile on your face. If she already likes you somewhat, she’ll start trying to prove her value to you.

You can also qualify a girl for qualities that you’re seriously looking for. For example, perhaps you want a bi-sexual girl that will eventually have threesomes with you. You can tell a woman, “I only date bi-sexual women.”

Or tell her, “I only date highly creative and intelligent women. Are you creative?”

Or say, “Do you work out? I like to be with women who take care of themselves.”

The hotter the chick, the harder you may need to qualify her. On an extremely hot girl, don’t be afraid to pummel her with screening criteria. Qualify HARD.

As long as she feels that she had to WORK for and EARN your approval and attention, she’ll have dopamine hormones flooding her head – the hormone responsible for love, desire, and wanting to chase a reward.