Seductive Touching In the Club: A Pick-up Example

February 11th, 2010

Here’s an example of using seductive touching in a club.

One night I was at a club and I spotted two girls leaning up against the bar.  One was hot, the other less so.  I went up to them with my body turned away and only my head turned toward them as I opened; it was only my third approach that night and I had no social proof going for me yet.

I asked in a booming voice for their opinion about relationships with the question directed equally at BOTH girls.

They both responded with interest, so I turned toward them and moved in closer. They were relatively friendly initially, but not enthusiastically so or anything – about average.

What followed next was about 15 minutes of social value building.  I teased them, told a story, and did a lot of screening tests on them, engaging the hot girl and her less hot friend about equally both.
During the social value building I interspersed seductive touching with the hot girl, hugging her when she passed my tests, giving her high-fives, and squeezing her hands. I also told her at one point, “Hey I like your jeans. You know these vertical lines make you look taller,” and I ran my finger up and down her inner thighs.

The hot one was leaning back up against the bar and I had to face her. This is not an ideal position to be in because it looks like you’re the one who has approached and you have to lean in slightly to seductively touch her.  So I took her by the hands and without asking, turned her from the bar and switched places with her. Now I was the one leaning against the bar and she was the one leaning into me. I took each of the hot girl’s hands in mine and massaged them… no resistance.
At this point I dropped all the teasing, stories, and tests. I started a rapid seductive touching escalation on the hot one, since she hadn’t given me resistance so far and had tried to pass all of my testing and screening.

I started outright complimenting how nice and unique her skin is… how no one else in the whole club had that particular color of skin – acceptance. I told her, “You know… I think I’m beginning to really like you!” Again, this is acceptance, since I already knew she liked me, I could now tell her that I liked her.
Next, I started directing her body language more aggressively. I simply pulled her arms around my waist so that she hugged me. When she fell out of form I simply pulled her arms back around my waist to have her hug me again. I was leading her body language so that SHE touched ME.

Notice I didn’t ask her to hug me, I just grabbed her arms and pulled them around my waist – I knew that she would go along with it because I tested her with seductive touching escalation this whole time.
One problem however is that she didn’t hold much steady eye contact with me so I pointed that out to her. I told her, “You have trouble making eye contact don’t you?” She said, “No I don’t, I’m not afraid.” So we started making heavy eye contact and I escalated even more by touching her face without my hand.

Now I turned the hot girl around so she was facing away from me and hugged her waist like she was my girlfriend. I started whispering in her ear about where she likes to be touched – the “hot spots pattern” I like to use.

At this point she was going crazy and was all over me. I turn her back around and we started making out. I pulled away first, telling her I didn’t want her to just think I was some club guy she made out with in the club.

This is something a girl might typically say to a guy, and by saying this to her she couldn’t use this line- and it sets the frame that she was gaming ME and not the other way around.
During the seductive touching escalation however, I made sure to periodically keep engaging her less attractive friend with opinions and rapid-fire routines so that she wouldn’t get bored and try to drag her hot friend away.

And it worked, her friend liked me so much that she started working out the logistics of how the hot one and I could leave together to go back to my place. It wouldn’t have happened however if I hadn’t taken the time to befriend BOTH of them and keep the less attractive one engaged and occupied, building my social value with her, while I did screening and acceptance and touch escalation on the hot one.

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Oxytocin Response And How to Touch a Woman

February 11th, 2010

It’s critically important to physically touch a woman early on in an interaction.

Touching a woman causes her body to release a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin.  Oxytocin increases a woman’s testosterone levels, the hormone responsible for her sex drive.  Oxytocin also causes her to feel a bonding with you and to feel good around you.  It’s called the Oxytocin response.

Even for a woman who acts cold at first, a few touches can make her feel hot.  It doesn’t matter where or how much you touch her – even a small touch on the arm is enough to release oxytocin hormones into her body and warm her up to you.

What’s more, oxytocin gives her the desire to be touched even more, producing yet even more oxytocin – a reinforcing cycle of sex hormone escalation.

And this oxytocin touch response is MUCH more powerful for women than it is for men.  Oxytocin requires estrogen to work.  Without estrogen, it has no effect.  And women have much more estrogen in their bodies than men.  Ever notice how a woman you never noticed before touched you on the hand or shoulder and suddenly you started to think differently about her – in a sexual way?  Well, in women the effect is 10 times stronger!  Don’t underestimate how one or two well-placed touches can make her start thinking about you or even get her wet between the legs.

Okay, here is how to use touch to get women hot without having them resist you.

First, be the kind of guy who is comfortable touching women from the moment you meet them.   Be a physical kind of person.  Act as if touching a woman is a normal thing you do all the time and women will accept that. Because only if you start touching a woman all of a sudden after a few weeks, it will seem weird to her, so start from the very first time you meet her.

Begin with small touches on the hands and arms to make her oxytocin hormones kick in.  The more you touch her in a playful take-charge way, the more she’ll want more touches and then even more.

My first contact will often be a high five.  Like I ask her where she’s from, she might say, “Montreal” and I’ll say, “Awesome, Montreal is a cool city… high five!”

I’ll also say ‘Give me your hand.’  Then, spin her pirouhette style.

She says something in a way you enjoy – and you say ‘That’s so cool.’ Or ‘You’re awesome’ and give her a one-armed hug around her shoulder or her waist, the way you would a kid sister.

Find out how she feels attraction run through her body – then trace the route with your fingers, narrating her attraction rising the whole time.

Get her touching YOU – like if you’re dancing, you can place her hips on your waist.

And her oxytocin response will kick in and you’re golden!

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How to Befriend Girls in Groups

February 10th, 2010

Here’s how to befriend girls in clubs, which you’ll often find them in groups.  Now in a lot of cases, you’ll find that women you want to approach are actually in a group, either with a group of girlfriends, guy friends, or a mix of both.

When a woman is in a group, and you only talk to her while ignoring her friends, her friends will often try to interrupt you, get her away from you, and in general try to block you from continuing the interaction.  That’s not an effective way to befriend all the girls.

So the trick is to open and become friends with the entire group.

For example, if you see a group of two or three girls, approach between them all and open with an opinion opener on ALL the girls at once to befriend the girls.  Get the opinion of all the girls and get them all talking with you.  When you get rapport with her friends, they’ll let down their guards and the one that responds best you can then focus your conversation with her.

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Should You Be a Nice Guy or a Jerk?

February 10th, 2010

Should you be a jerk or a nice guy provider?

Take this analogy. Suppose there are two varieties of a species of bird, differentiated only by their willingness to fight. When two birds find the same piece of food, the “hawk” variety always fights, the “dove” always flees. If almost all the birds were doves, being a hawk would be profitable, since hawks would almost always get disputed bits of food without having to fight for them. If hawks do better at food gathering than doves, they will be more successful in producing and raising offspring, so the number of hawks will always increase.

As the number of hawks increases, the payoff to being a hawk falls; more and more often the opponent turns out to be another hawk, and the result is a fight that does both birds more damage than the food is worth. At some ratio of hawks to doves, we reach an equilibrium where each strategy is equally successful.

However, this “nice guy” versus “jerk” theory is a false one. Why?

Because guys who are most successful with women are neither “nice guys” nor are they “jerks”. They are neither “doves” nor are they “hawks”.

Guys who are successful with women are playful, relaxed, and don’t apologize for their actions. Guys who are successful with women are in tune with women’s emotions, desires, and interests and have a deep love of women. They don’t allow themselves to be walked all over by women but neither do they themselves walk all over women either. They treat women well and with respect, just not from a needy frame.

In other words, there will never be a shortage of women attracted to the kind of men that women naturally fall for.

For example, imagine if all of the women in your city grew larger breasts, fuller lips, smoother skin, and toner muscles. Would there suddenly be a shortage of men attracted to those kinds of women? No. If all the women in your city suddenly looked like a Perfect 10 would that decrease the number of guys wanting them? No.

Learning seduction is not about becoming a jerk; rather, it is the equivalent of a man growing breasts. It’s installing the qualities that are attractive to ALL women – even the women who prefer “nice guys” over “jerks” as well as the women who prefer “jerks” over “nice guys”.

The point of this analogy? Learn the skills and characteristics that make men universally attractive to women and don’t get caught up in the idea of being either the jerk or the nice guy.

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Why Ladies Like Chivalrous Behavior

February 10th, 2010

Chivalrous behavior doesn’t mean that you’re a pushover “nice guy”.

A lot of guys think that they have to buy their way to a woman’s heart – or at least have enough money, looks, cars, skills in whatever, and so on to win a woman’s affections.  Usually they have the following ideas in their head:

“I need to have a lot of money to have beautiful women… I need to have a new car to have beautiful women… I need to have this or that skill to have beautiful women… I need to have thick arms and a model’s face to have beautiful women… I need to be the most interesting conversationalist on the planet to have beautiful women… I need to have more of a life to have beautiful women.”

So it’s no surprise that when a man with these ideas in his head actually has a date with a beautiful woman, he’s insecure – because he doesn’t live up to his idealized image of what he should be.  So he compensates by attempting to buy a woman’s attention – with candies, cards, flowers, presents, and fine dining.

Of course, on the inside he’s nervous as hell – nervous on an unconscious level that he’s a fake and a fraud, not truly living up to his idealized image of what he should be – and nervous that the woman, despite his best efforts, will accept his gifts but reject HIM.

So he acts conservative about what he says and does so as to please the woman and not risk in any way offending her… leading him to act stiff and wooden with sweaty palms and wet armpits… making him even more nervous and uncomfortable – which the girl can sense through subtle body language and voice signals… making HER feel nervous and uncomfortable as well.

It’s a date that’s sure to end in a vicious downward spiral of flaming disaster.  Believe me, a long time ago I was there too and it wasn’t fun. In fact, it sort of feels like walking in front of a speeding bus.

Now, some guys who rightfully avoid this “I’m a desperate super-nice guy, I-have-to-kiss-her-ass-so-that-hopefully-she-likes-me” behavior make the mistake of overreacting and doing just the exact OPPOSITE.  They play the role of the COLD JERK.

Instead of being the kissy-assy nice guy, they act like the meanie.  Instead of playfully teasing a girl, they put her down about things she can’t change about herself and insult her.  They turn their backs on and ignore the girl to the point of rudeness.  They ignore what the girl has to say when she’s genuinely opening up to them.  They laugh AT the girl when she does something silly or stupid or makes an honest mistake.  Instead of calling her a “brat” in a teasing way, they call her “stupid” or a “slut” at seemingly random moments.  They flake out on a girl simply to “discipline her”, even when she’s already been showing the best behavior.

This kind of approach doesn’t work either, because it’s cruel. Girls will just think you’re a dick, and rightly so. High quality girls won’t put up with it, at least not for long.

So while you don’t want to be a total kiss-ass, this does NOT mean you want to make the mistake of becoming a cold jerk either.  Here’s the key:

You want to be CHIVALROUS IN SMALL WAYS… IN WAYS THAT HAVING NOTHING TO DO WITH MONEY!

Yes that’s right. You want to be a gentleman in SMALL ways and do SMALL courtesies for her with chivalrous behavior.  Like opening and closing the car’s passenger-side door for her to get in. Or holding the door open for a woman and allowing her to walk through first. Or allowing the woman to step off the elevator first before you do.  Or if she’s wearing a genuinely nice dress or an interesting accessory, to compliment her on it.  Or listening to her – genuinely listening to her – when she has something to say.

Now notice that none of these small courtesies and chivalrous behavior have anything to do with money. By being chivalrous, you are NOT attempting to buy her affections.   Instead, you’re showing her courtesies that she would expect ANY guy with a good heart to show ALL women, regardless of whom the woman was or her looks.  After all, wouldn’t you hold the door open for your grandmother? Or help her down the steps? Or genuinely listen to what a friend had to say?

Chivalrous behavior shows to a woman that you have a *side* of you that is of a refined gentleman. It’s your protective side – the side of you that would look after her if she got sick and be there to feed her chicken soup.

Chivalrous behavior demonstrates to a woman that you have SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE – that you act appropriately in different social situations. For example, if she found herself at the Presidential Inaugural Ball with you, she would know you could hold your own with the suit-wearing elites and wouldn’t act like some foul-mouthed jackass.  Or if she introduced you to her parents she would know you wouldn’t slap her ass in front of her Dad or crack diarrhea jokes in front of her Mom.

Of course, being chivalrous in small ways doesn’t mean being careful and conservative about how you act around women. Chivalry doesn’t mean becoming a boring stiff who is always worried whether he’s acting in the right manner.

And chivalry doesn’t mean “Knightly Chivalry” where you ride in on a horse, recite poems, and sprinkle rose pedals around her feet like she’s Queen Guinevere.  Being chivalrous isn’t the same as being wishy-washy “nice”.

To illustrate: after helping her out of the car, you might be making funny faces and sticking your tongue out at her.  A few minutes after holding her hand down some steps you might start a tickling match with her.  After noticing her new dress, you might give her a playful slap on the ass.

The key is to be relaxed, playful and fun and punctuate it with chivalric behavior.

Surprise her by showing how much a gentlemen you can be at moments, and how much a gentleman you are to ALL women – including your friends, relatives, and even total strangers.  You may hit her by surprise in the back of the head with a pillow or call her a “dork” in a teasing kind of way, but you also help old ladies across the street.

Remember, you want her to think that you’re a GOOD guy with a GOOD heart, not a wet noodle of a “nice guy” who will do anything for her no matter how badly or rudely SHE acts. Small acts of courtesy will get you farther in this respect than any number of large gifts.

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Talking to Girls On The Phone Tips

February 8th, 2010

Talking to girls on the phone – phone conversation is necessary to get from one meeting location to the next. Now some guys like to talk to the woman for 15 minutes and get it over with quickly; other guys like to talk on the phone for over an hour to build bond and connection with the woman. However, no matter what you plan to say or how long you intend to speak, it will come off wrong if you sound nervous.

Most guys start out nervous when talking to girls on the phone, but then calm down as the conversation continues and a conversational rhythm emerges.

In fact, it’s usually those first five minutes that you’re a little nervous speaking over the phone, that feeling of nervousness typically most acute right before you call her. The problem is, if in those first five minutes your voice is a little raspy, unsure, or constricted, it will make the woman feel nervous too and she’ll feel like it’s all “wrong” and not want to get together with you.

That’s why, no matter what you say, you can only make the girl feel comfortable if YOU are comfortable from the very first word you say to her over the phone.

Here’s a little trick I like to use and it works wonders when talking to girls on the phone, especially that first phone call.

What you want to do a few minutes before the call is do this quick exercise and sing “A-ve Maria.” Chant “Ave Maria” out loud to yourself for a few minutes. Feel the vibration in your throat, which will give you a nasal sound, and then move the vibration down to your chest which will give you a resonant sound.

Like a mantra chant, you’ll relax right down and you’ll become used to hearing your voice. At the same time, your voice will be resonant and sexy going into the conversation. I’ll often be chanting “Ave Maria” even as I dial the phone number.

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Introducing Sexual Talking Topics With Girls

February 8th, 2010

Sometimes you want to get into sexual talking topics when talking with girls.  With many women you can’t dive into the topic of sex directly in conversation. Sure, party girls often LIKE to hear you talk about sex as long as you’re totally relaxed about it, but with most average girls if you bring up the topic of sex directly too soon it can turn her off.

For example, if you directly ask a woman out of the blue, “So, do you ever fantasize about lesbian sex?” you may turn her off unless you have really strong rapport with her and she’s totally comfortable with you. And even then if you say it in an overly eager way it will make you look needy.

What works much more effectively is to get her sexual imagination running through the use of funny and entertaining stories. Through a story you can talk about sexual topics about OTHER people and at the same time make her laugh – which bypasses her normal, logical defense mechanisms.

Here’s a story I like to use when talking topics with girls:

“It’s so funny how interesting things happen when you least expect it… get this. My friend Jessica was on Spring Break in Pensacola where she met some really cool people there.  Well anyway, the last night she was there, she and this guy were in her hotel room making out. The only thing that separated them from the people next door was this flimsy, thin door between the rooms with a lock.

So they began to hear some couple next door moaning and screaming… like ahhh, oooh (make some funny orgasmic sounds here in a girly voice)… they knew what was happening but it was so funny because they were really going at it and it was getting loud! Then they heard a VIBRATOR sound. So they were laughing quietly… and even put their ears close to the door to listen. Can you imagine that? She told me it was a real turn on and that as the sounds got louder and louder, they couldn’t contain themselves and began kissing more passionately. And pretty soon they were both naked and going at it as well.

She said she never had so much fun in her life…. have you ever done anything crazy like that?”

That’s the story. What this story does is,

First, it introduces sex in a playful manner that happened to someone else so that the woman’s defenses don’t go up.

Second, gets her laughing so that her defenses go down.

Third, gives her an example of a girl going sexually wild and demonstrating that I’m cool with it. In other words, I won’t judge her negatively if she does the same.

And fourth, engages the part of her mind that is adventurous and naughty.

Stories allow a woman to put aside her logical mind and just listen. It’s very hypnotic and trance like. After all, it’s not about her- it’s about someone else. She’ll also attach the ideas of sexual adventure, fun, romance, and travel all to you within a matter of seconds, even if the story wasn’t about you. As long as YOU tell the story to her she will associate the feelings she gets with YOU.

Best of all, when talking topics with girls, you can use the same story over and over again.

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Use Curiosity Hooks When Making Conversation With Girls

February 8th, 2010

I can almost always tell when a commercial is coming.  So can you.  You know, the music swells, the drama builds, something important is about… to… happen.  Then boom.  Commercials.

This is where the term ‘cliffhanger’ comes from.  Producers didn’t take too long to figure out that the key to keeping viewers watching through their ads is to simply ask a question that they want to see answered.

And you know what?  It works.  It works so well, that I bet you YOURSELF have watched shows you didn’t care about, that you thought were bad, putrid, the worst kind of television… but you wound up sitting through the whole thing because there was a question you wanted the answer to.

ALL television shows use unanswered questions and cliffhangers because it works REALLY well. Human beings are fundamentally curious animals. We are biologically wired to want to know.

Or ever notice how much more exciting it is to open a gift wrapped present and seeing what’s inside rather than just having something plainly handed to you?

Curiosity is a “click whirr”, knee-jerk response that all human beings reliably and consistently respond to. And you can use curiosity to literally force women to respond enthusiastically to your advances with “click whirr” reliability.

And when you’re making conversation with girls for the first time, she’s making snap judgments, and you’ve got to keep her interest.

You can’t think of a THING, the silence is getting awkward, and suddenly she’s saying ‘Nice to meet you,’ and walking out of your life.

What could you have done?

Hook her.  Cliffhang her.

I LOVE this technique when making conversation with girls.  Even if you’ve got all the social skill of an ape, master the hook and women will inexplicably find themselves interested in what you’re saying.

If you can carry yourself in a halfway-decent manner, a well-placed hook or two will GREATLY magnify her interest in the conversation.

For example, one of my favorite hooks is ‘You know, I’ve noticed something very interesting about you.  I bet no one else has ever noticed it.’

That’s it.  That’s all I’ll say.

I can guarantee that 99 out of 100 women will stop dead in their tracks and ask what it is that you noticed. You’ve used her own curiosity to literally force her to stop and respond… you have hooked her like a fish to your line.

The second thing you must do is that after you throw her the Hook, is wait. Yes, shut up! Throw the hook, be quiet, and WAIT for her to respond. For example tell her,

“I don’t know if anyone has ever told you this before, but I noticed something really interesting about you.”  Now WAIT for her response.

This may seem like an obvious thing to do when making conversation with girls, but a lot of guys tend to throw their hook and immediately give the answer without giving their worm, the woman, time to wiggle. For example, they’ll ruin the power of the hook and say instead, “I noticed something really interesting about you… it’s those boots you’re wearing… I use to have a girlfriend who wore those same boots!”

In this example, the hook is there but the girl never had the chance to get her curiosity going!

Now let’s say she asks you, “So what do you do?”

You can tell her, “You’ll never believe it if I told you.”

This gets her curiosity flaming!

She says, “WHAT?”

Now you make her wiggle, say “Well, can you guess? ;) ”

Another variation is to cast your hook and then begin talking about something entirely else. This way, as you talk to her, she’ll have that curiosity gnawing at the back of her mind and she won’t be able to leave you until it’s scratched!

For example, when she asks you, “So what do you do?”

You reply, “Oh, what I do is really interesting… which reminds me of what you said earlier about liking exciting, adventuresome people and what happened to me when I was climbing Mt Fuji in Japan last year…”

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The Funniest Porn Parodies and Spoofs Of All Time

February 6th, 2010

tylers_wood

Tyler’s Wood

bradys

Not the Brady’s XXX

austin_prowler

Austin Prowler

entourage

Entourage XXX

penetrator

The Penetrator

throbbin_hood

Throbbin’ Hood

sexbusters

Sexbusters

nailin_palin

Who’s Nailin’ Paylin?

american_booty

American Booty

cosbys

The Cosbys

married_with_children

Married With Children

munsters

The Munsters

not_another_porn_movie

Not Another Porn Movie

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Great Opinion Openers

February 2nd, 2010

One great opinion opener structure is based on giving a story situation and asking her opinion about it.  The story situation can be told with just a few words or can be a few sentences long. Here are some examples.

“My friend and I were debating this and figured we need a female opinion.  Who do you think J-LO will marry next?”

“I need your opinion on this… this has been in my head all day… do you think Michael Jackson bleached his skin or is that a natural skin condition he has.”

“My friend went to this psychic who told him he was going to be rich.  Do you believe in psychics?”

“I need your opinion on something.  My friend has been dating this girl for three months now and she’s been calling him three times a day.  I don’t know about you, but that seems pretty possessive to me.  What do you think.”

“I need your opinion on something.  I have a good friend and she caught her boyfriend kissing another girl.  She ran away crying but she loves him so much she’s forgiven him and still wants to be with him.   I mean, I only want the best for her… what do you think, should she dump him or what.”

Those are just some great opinion openers you can use right away.

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Belisa Vranich – one babedacious sex psychologist (video)

February 1st, 2010

Meet Belisa Vranich – damn, this is one hot psychologist.

Smart, sexy, cupid bow lips, long legs – with her thick black glasses she looks like a high school teacher from your dreams.

Okay, so she’s saying that nighttime is not the best time to have sex because we’re tired after work.  I think I learned something.  Or not.

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Get Some BALLS With BALLS Beer! (video)

January 22nd, 2010

Watch the video above…

You’re not trying to get the girl to like you.  You’re not trying to impress her.  By being unreactive and doing as you please, girls will naturally be attracted.
Like the video says, “To get what you want done – Get some balls.”

You’re not trying to get the girl to like you.  You’re not trying to impress her.  By being unreactive and doing as you please, girls will naturally be attracted.

Like the video says, “To get what you want done – Get some balls.”

No really, having confidence and “testicles of titanium” really comes down to having TRUST.

TRUSTING that what you say is worthwhile no matter how silly or “stupid”.

TRUSTING in your own actions of grabbing a girl, pulling her in, and pushing her away without second guessing yourself or waiting to see how she’ll react.

TRUSTING that you’re attractive as a man for who you are and not instantly ejecting the first moment a girl shows a little resistance.

TRUSTING that you’re a person of value and assuming attraction when you go up to a girl.

A man who TRUSTS in everything he does and wants to do doesn’t over think and over analyze everything.  He just ACTS.

To observers watching, they call that “confidence” and “having BALLS”.

But a man who holds back to “plays it safe” doesn’t trust himself or his value.  A man thinking of all his routines and tactics doesn’t trust that whatever he says inherently has value.  A man thinking about which set to open doesn’t trust the moment.

George Bush had total trust in whatever he did was right, and therefore the balls to do whatever he damned please.  Of course, that can be a total disaster while leading a country.

But in a club, unquestioning trust in your actions and your words is the best “tactic” you can possibly have.

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5 Steps to Getting a FFM Threesome With Two Girls

January 20th, 2010

All women are bisexual to a degree.

Women by nature feel perfectly comfortable holding hands, cuddling, and kissing each other.

Most women have had bisexual fantasies or urges at one point or another. And in research studies, most women become excited when they see girl making love to another girl on video.

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Girls naturally have bi-friendly tendencies

From the Nancy Friday books where real women describe their fantasies, one woman says, “Most of my fantasies revolve around girls my own age but there is a teacher at my school whom I find very attractive. She is the typical American blonde, very athletic, very pretty. I often find myself wondering how she would make love to me. I would love to kiss her. I imagine nothing will happen, though, but I wish she would try to seduce me. Yesterday I casually sat with my legs slightly parted so she could see up my dress.”

At any rate, having some level of girl-on-girl fantasy is quite common for women, even if the fantasy isn’t full blown sex but just light attraction and suggestive cuddling and kissing.

The best way to get into FFM threesome with two girls is to begin with a girl you’re already sleeping with, like a girlfriend or sex buddy.

If you ask a woman outright if she’s bisexual, many will say ‘no’, even if she is. I’ve talked to women who have told me that they’re straight and only later admitted to me that they had bisexual fantasies and dreams.

So first, you need to firmly establish her self-identity as being bisexual – that she’s sexually attracted to other women.

Step #1. Get her into state

The first step to getting into a FFM threesome is to get the woman highly aroused with some rough sex and dirty talk. Do her hard and tell her what an open minded sexual girl she is. During sex, have her call you “Master” or her “Strong Man” and move and lead her around the room to establish physical and mental dominance and leadership.

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First, unleash the inner beast

In other words, through some hard and unapologetic sex, get her into that “Mistress Mentality” where she’s pretty much down for anything you lead her to. This is also called the Blissnosis State.

Don’t bring up bisexuality or being with another woman explicitly just yet as that can engage her critical factor and can cause her to resist.

Instead, while she’s in the extremely suggestible, excited, Blissnotic state, put her into the missionary position (you on top) and lower your face down to meet hers. Then command her to suck on your lower lip as if it were a clitoris.

Step #2. Make her suck that clit

Tell her, “Okay baby, my lip is a clitoris. Suck that clitoris. Lick it wet. Suck it hard. Make that clitoris orgasm baby. Suck it. Suck it.”

In this you’re not telling her to be with another girl – you’re only telling her suck a clitoris, your lip. 99.9% of women will go with this as all women are comfortable to some degree with bisexuality.

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Have her go through the oral motions

As she sucks your lower lip, describe how that pussy she’s sucking is getting wet and going crazy. Tell her, “Oh yeah baby that vagina is so hot. It’s so excited. It loves your tongue. Yeah, make that pussy orgasm. Get it hot. Suck it. Suck it.”

She’ll be going crazy sucking hard on that lower lip of yours.

Afterward when the sex is over, after she comes out of Blissnosis back into a normal state, tell her how hot it was that she was with a woman, sucking a clit like that.  Reward her by being close to her with hugging, cuddling, and telling her how hot she is.

Repeat the sucking on your lip three or four times with her to reinforce the idea that she likes to suck and lick a woman’s pussy and to reinforce all the good feelings about it.

Step #3. Establish her bisexual identity

Next up, during a later sex session, you want her to be openly admitting that she’s bisexual. Next time you’re fucking her hard and with force and animal abandon, have her repeat back to you a bunch of statements.

Tell her, “You’re a sexually adventurous girl, aren’t you. Tell it to me…” Have her say it back to you.

Tell her, “Yes you have all sorts of wild fantasies don’t you… I want to hear it. Tell your strong man.” Make sure she repeats it back!

Have her tell you what a freaky girl she really is. It’s important that she repeats it back with her own voice and her own words, because that really cements it for her- when SHE has said it herself.

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Get dominant and lead her with force and power in the bedroom

Then once you’ve gotten “yes I am”, “yes I am”, “yes I am” responses from her, tell her, “You like other girls don’t you, you like to suck pussy… you do.”

Remember, she’s already sucked your “lip pussy” at this point, so it will be easy for her to say “Yes I do!”

Tell her, “Ooh, I love bisexual girls. Tell me what a bisexual girl you are… tell me you’re bisexual and you like other girls… tell your strong man the truth! Tell me!” And she’ll say “YES!”

The key here is to follow the steps up the ladder so that you don’t spring everything on her at once.

In addition, don’t obsessively look for the woman’s approval or reaction. If you obsess about getting a “bad reaction” you’ll be too chicken-shit to actually LEAD the woman to new sexual heights.

Remember, women WANT you to discover their true inner sexual nature and allow her to be all the woman she can be.

On that 1% chance you get a bad reaction, just ignore the bad reaction and keeping talking dirty about something else she’s comfortable with.

Step #4. Take it outside the bedroom

Next up, you want to talk about her bisexuality OUTSIDE of the bedroom. You want to bring it up NOT in a serious way, but in a positive and dominant way.

The girl comes over to your apartment and you say with a smile and a wink, “Hmm, I love that you’re bisexual… it just makes you extra sexy and spicy,” and lift her up off her feel and twirl her around to establish your physical dominance over her and make her laugh.

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Play and flirt physically with her outside the bedroom and make it fun, while you encourage and reward her bisexual side

Just keep poking her with the identity calling her your “sexy bi-girl” as you tickle her and kiss her nose.

If she says, “No I’m not!” just tell her, “Hmm, but your strong man finds you so sexy that way,” and just keep poking her about it. Just like if you keep calling someone “smart”, they’ll start to believe it, if you keep calling a girl “bi” enough times with enough positive reinforcement and affection as a reward, she’ll come to embrace the identity. After all, women are bisexual by nature anyway, so it’s just going with her natural flow to embrace it.

All you’re doing is giving her PERMISSION to openly and happily say YES! to her true nature.

And again, if you’re overly worried about her reaction or too seeking of her approval, you’ll come across as nervous and without conviction. Just make her fun, lighthearted, physical, rewarding, and don’t worry about her reaction. That’s what a sexy man does – he LEADS her.

Step #5. Bring up threesomes

Just having a girl openly and happily admit she’s bisexual and attracted to other girls however is different than a girl jumping into bed with another girl.

So next you have to get her comfortable and liking the idea. You can whisper into her ear during some hot sex or even in the kitchen how hot it would be to see her eat out another woman or to see a woman eat her out.

Keep repeating the idea and have her repeat it back to you.

Now there are a number of ways to meet that third girl.

If you’re already great at pickup, you can bring her along to a bar or club for a hunt. But don’t expect the girl to do the work for you. You need to be reasonably relaxed, confident, and cool about picking up new girls to make this method work. If you still have approach anxiety in these kinds of situations, you’ll only transfer that nervous energy and creepiness to your first girl and it will be all over.

Far easier is to bring the girl to a Bliss Party which take place all over the country and internationally. My program Blissnosis deals extensively with these kinds of parties, where the girls are already openly bisexual and sexually free (and far hotter too), and hooking up with a cute, sexually experimentive girl is about ten times easier.

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Bliss Parties are a great way to meet easy going, bi-sexy women for threesome experimentation

One thing I highly recommend is to avoid bringing up names of women you already know. Make the fantasy about being with a generic third woman, not one of your previous girlfriends or a mutual friend of yours because that will trigger jealousy in her and cause her to shut down.

A little jealousy too is to be expected, and actually a GOOD thing at low levels. Jealousy makes women compete, revs up their sexual temperature, attracts her to you, and acts as an aphrodisiac. Too much jealousy however can make a woman psychotic and insane, and there are ways to keep the jealousy at a low, beneficial level.

Step #6. Get the Blissnosis Mastery Program

These are just a few of my tips. How to lead and train a woman without resistance, how to bring out her sexuality, how to set up threesomes, how to find and get inside and meet fun attractive women at Bliss Parties, and how to keep potential jealousy under control are all covered in my Blissnosis 2010 Master Program. You’re sure to want to check it out if sexual abundance is your New Year’s resolution.

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Click here for more about the Blissnosis Master program.

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This ONE Technique From Avatar Will Accelerate Your Pickup Skills By 300%

January 14th, 2010

After having taught pickup and bootcamps for 8 years, I’ve found a really shocking dynamic among the guys who study seduction and picking up girls.

There’s lots of free material out there on the Internet to meet girls. A lot of it’s great and a lot of it works.

And then there are these huge message boards full of hundreds and hundreds of guys who can’t pick up women – at least not consistently.

These guys have read all of the books, but are still talking about how they’re struggling just saying hello or what to do next.

And at clubs, you hardly see anyone approach. 99% of guys will simply not approach women and they get nowhere with it.

What I’ve found is that the solution isn’t the next best routine, line, or theory. The element they’re missing comes down to a profound lesson in the film Avatar.

How Do We Really Change?

Take Jake Scully, the wheelchair ridden, ex-marine in the movie. At first he has no problem with bulldozing over the Na’vi hometree.

Yet by the end of the film he transforms from a follower taking orders to a great warrior who rides giant birds and leads a blue alien race.

How? Because he became fully immersed in the environment.

Only by running and flying through the exhilarating wilds of Pandora, only by synching his tail’s nerves directly with the animals and with the Chief’s daughter, only by immersing himself in the sights and sounds of the new world does Jake’s beliefs truly change, to the point of taking monumental risk and action to save Pandora.

Reading an e-book about the Na’vi people or watching a YouTube clip would not have transformed Jake’s beliefs or turned him into a leader who would risk his life to succeed.

And the reason 99% of guys simply do not become good at pickup is because of a lack of immersion.

You won’t become a great basketball player reading books and theory.

Nor can you become a great pickup artist that way.

Books and videos are simply not immersive enough.

You might feel empowered reading a new technique or cool routine. It can make you feel good and give you a rush. But you don’t actually get LAID that way.

I’ve just seen too many guys get discouraged and fail at this over the years, even though they had all of the information “at their fingertips”.

Director James Cameron knew this too: that’s why he made his movie Avatar in 3D with an immersive visual world and put you right in the feet of the Na’vi – a massive dose of sheer immersion to change your core beliefs.

The Achilles’ Heel of Live Bootcamps

Deep seated change and advanced skill only comes through 360 degree experience and total immersion in the new environment for an extended period of time.

That’s why some guys will spend $1,500 to $3,000 for 3 day bootcamps for the IMMERSIVE experience, and that’s simply the fastest way to learn. Of course, live bootcamps are insanely expensive… and 0% effective if you can’t afford it!

And because weekend bootcamps are so short, most guys immediately fall off the bandwagon once they’re back in their home environments a few days later.

I knew that somebody needed to create a total immersive training experience that lasted longer than a single weekend – and yet cheap enough for anyone who wanted it badly enough.

My name is Jesse Charger and I’ve taught men pickup since 2002 and done pickup myself since 2000 (that’s 10 years of experience now). I’ve done everything from write books about the subject to teach live bootcamps and workshops and have been featured on radio shows and in magazines.

And now I’m laying out the new Avatar Method of mastering pickup and transformation.

Principle #1: Immersion is Everything

The way to truly MASTER pickup is through total immersion, like having 1-on-1 personal coaching and guidance for at least a YEAR.

Yes, that’s coaching each and every day, of each and every month, for a year. Not 3 days, not 3 months, but a year of total immersion.

To accomplish this for you, I began a 365 day, total immersion pickup master coaching canmp where you’ll meet 20 to 60 new women every month for 12 months.

We’ll build a relationship and talk one-on-one together to dismantle your roadblocks and strategize a steady progression of pickup success.

And just to be clear, it doesn’t matter where in the world you live, we can still work together by phone each day.

I’ll save you from many of the common pitfalls of learning. Most guys end up moving backwards or giving up because they don’t have guidance and get discouraged, burn out, or stall.

And yes, it takes about 3 months to a year of total immersive training to get good. Fighting that will only slow you down. Just accept it.

Just think back on a pickup workshop or conference you took and all the amazing things you learned. Think back on the new bonds you formed with the other guys in the workshop and the coaches. That was what happened in a 2 or 3 days. Now multiply that by 365 days. That’s what I mean by immersive learning, Avatar style.

Just click here to learn more about the coaching program and to get yourself signed up…

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10 Reasons Why ‘Do Her and Dump Her’ Bad Boys Are The GOOD Guys

January 11th, 2010

While Mothers want their daughters to avoid a “do her and dump her” bad boy Rake at all costs, a bad boy can actually be exactly what a girl needs sometimes.

Women are deeply oppressed by the role they are expected to play. Women are supposed to be the moralizers of society and expected to suppress their natural sexual urges and fantasies.

What the bad boy Rake offers a woman is what society does not allow her – an affair of pure pleasure, an exciting brush with danger. The Rake offers to touch and draw out that repressed sexual desire within women that cries out for liberation.

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Elvis slept with hundreds of women in his lifetime… do you think any of them regretted it? Not likely.

The Rake, in his pursuit of pleasure, draws a woman into the kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. And sometimes that’s exactly what a woman needs, even if no long term relationship will come of it.

The bad boy Rake, a good one, is delightfully unrestrained, incredibly bold in the face of his own fears, and women admire him for his audacity, forgiving him for the fact that he is always on the prowl for the next woman. The Rake shows no hesitation in his actions by abandoning all restraint, by letting himself go.

And the Rake lives for challenges. Whereas most men give up on the first sign of resistance, the Rake never worries about a woman’s resistance to him. The Rake knows that more “prudish” the woman, the more she will be tempted by a man with a dangerous or naughty side.

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Dean Martin the Rake

After all, it is often the most “virtuous” of women who fall mostly deeply head over heels for the bad boy. So resistance only further fans the fire of his determination.

In fact, the Rake’s greatest asset is his reputation as an incorrigible and notorious lover of all women. The Rake never apologizes for his love-her-and-leave-her ways, but instead he embraces it. He may be disloyal, dishonest, and sexually “amoral”, but that only adds to his appeal with the ladies. Paradoxically, it his very reputation that makes women compete for his attention. And often women love him for it in a twisted kind of way.

The bad boy is the man who breaks women out of their passivity and routines and into a world of adventure and fantasy. After all, women deep down want to have a chance to become sexually irrational and uncivilized, to have a chance to explore dangerous sexual pleasures and the taboo.

So you see, the bad boy “scoundrel” actually plays an important role to women.

My Rake CD bypasses the normal learning process of becoming the bad boy, installing the habits and traits of the Rake directly into your subconscious mind so that there’s no studying and no memorizing- just pure absorption and learning.

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My Rake CD installs the traits and beliefs of the Rake archetype into your mind while you sit back, relax, and listen. In this series of 6 trances you’ll install the traits of the Natural, the bad boy Rake, the social Star, the confident Charismatic, the hypnotic Charmer, and the passionate Lover archetypes.

For more on the complete program click on THIS link below:

http://www.seductionscience.com/archetypes/

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Make Your Girlfriend Strip For You

January 8th, 2010

What’s better than a cool girlfriend — only a cool girlfriend that DANCES and strips for you.

We all know the thrill of watching a woman undress. On the beach often times I’m most titillated when seeing a woman with her top on, just waiting for her to take it off. The unknown, what you have but a hint of, can be more exciting than what you fully know.

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When a woman begins to strip, it’s a delicious tease because she’s slowly torturing you. Part of the appeal for a woman is the thrill of being desired and being able to tease her man to a state of complete sexual excitement.

A girl might be nervous or shy at first about giving you a dance at home, but really they enjoy it.

As a dancer, a woman steps into the sexy, desired, exotic, feminine world of lights, fashion, and glamor, free from the day-to-day grind of everyday life, free from the stresses of reality.

The exotic dancer throws convention out the window. She can be lawless. She can break every taboo. Undressing her clothes represents pure rebellious excitement.

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One woman writes in the Nancy Friday books,

“In my fantasy I go to work in a pornographic bookstore that has dancing girls who will dance for a man in a booth with just a pane of glass between them.

The bookstore owner tells me he has a customer that wants to use one of the booths, and he tells me to turn him on. I take my place on a stool behind the glass in the booth. Soon the customer comes in and sits down. Music begins to play. I stand up and begin to gyrate my hips as I rub my hands. I slowly take off my skirt and blouse, revealing my sexy bra and underpants. The customer has his eyes glued to me. He is beginning to breathe heavily.

I reach my hand inside my underpants and begin to play with myself. My eyes are closed, and I show him that I am really becoming aroused. I open my eyes and check the customer’s crotch. His pants show a large bulge, and he keeps reaching down to his bulge and pressing against it with his hand. I take my bra off and start rubbing my hands over my tits, playing with the nipples. He begins to squirm in his chair as his hard-on becomes more and more uncomfortable for him.

I take my underpants off and lie down with my legs spread wide apart and my feet up against the glass, and I start fingering my pussy. He stands up right at the glass and unzips his pants and pulls out his throbbing penis. He is rubbing the head of his penis against the glass as he watches me play with myself. He rubs it back and forth, and the semen that is leaking from the head is smearing all over the glass. I start raising and lowering my hips as if I am fucking him. He starts to rapidly jerk his penis up and down, faster and faster, gasping for his breath, until he comes all over the glass and I come all over my hand. His time is up and he leaves.”

Another woman writes,

“In my fantasy my fiancé and his friends meet at our local club on a Sunday afternoon. I decide to give them all some extra time and arrange to have a private show in the back room, where I am the center of attention. There are rows of chairs laid out in front of the stage and gradually each one is filled with all of Bruce’s friends. Some slow, sensual music begins to play and I slowly walk on to the stage, wearing tight, black leather trousers and a tight, black crop-top that makes my breasts look even bigger.

Bruce’s face is an absolute picture as I start to move around the stage, slowly, sensually, and erotically rubbing my hands over my breasts. My nipples stand hard and erect. I look into his eyes with such confidence as I slowly step off the stage and walk towards him. I sit astride him and kiss him passionately. I can feel him hardening already. I stand up and walk around all his friends, rubbing my body against some, kissing others on the cheek and pushing my breast into the faces of the others. As I walk back to the stage, I start to take my top off to reveal a red, lacy bra. I start to undo my leather jeans, pulling them down over my butt, slowly and seductively. Once they are off, all I have left on is my red bra and red stockings.”

To be a stripper, an entertainer under the eyes of an audience is to have power and control, to be lusted after and to be transported to a fantasy world of glamour. Here writes a woman who went to a strip club in her junior year of college and describes her fascination of it.

“I’ve always secretly wanted to be a whore — perhaps not so much a prostitute, but an object of desire, an otherworldly, larger-than-life creature of immense sexuality and, therefore, infinite power. Every woman knows that her sex is the key to her power, and I wanted that — I wanted power and control, to be a figure looked up at and lusted after. I wanted it all, while still remaining safe behind the untouchableness of mystical appeal.

In spite of, or perhaps because of, my average middle-class upbringing — average face behind average glasses framed by average brown hair — I wanted the thrill reserved only for sex gods and goddesses, the glamour of being judged for my sexual prowess, the allure of being judged not by my intellect (which I felt anyone dedicated to reading the right books could achieve), but of being judged by something far more difficult to accomplish – endless legs, luscious hair, tender breasts, and intoxicating beauty.

The girls weren’t superhuman, their breasts weren’t even that big, but the lights, the stage, the music, the air – something about the place catapulted them to another planet.

I learned what it was like to be an object of desire, to be up on that stage, unattainable and lusted after, and I loved it.”

If your woman has little or no experience dancing, order a video like the “The Art of Sensual Dance for Every Body” as a gift for her from an online store like Amazon.com. Videos on exotic dancing will give her ideas on how to dance like a stripper. Watch it with her and have fun trying it out.

Later during sex, once your woman is in a highly suggestible Blissnotic state, stand her up and tell her, “You’re name is now Mercedes and you are an exotic dancer and stripper.”

Start spitting out commands to her.

Tell her, “As you dance you will moan while showing off your body…

As you dance you will make direct eye contact with my eyes…

You will hold your breasts and you will show them off…

You will kiss your breasts…

You will rub your nipples and get them hard…

You will bend over and open your ass cheeks…

You will sensuously rub your hands all over your body…

You will lie on your back and pull your vaginal lips open…

You will finger yourself and play with your clit…

You will give me a lap dance…

You will pull down my pants to expose my erection and dance your ass on it and tease it until you can’t stand it anymore…”

You’ll also want to have some music ready for her to dance to. Music is critical because without music it’s very hard to dance without a rhythm and beat and music in this case is a critical environmental cue to put her into the mindset of an exotic dancer.

You can use any music you like but here are some songs that I suggest:

- “Human Nature” by Madonna.
- “In Your Eyes” by Kylie Minogue
- “Slow” by Kylie Minogue
- “Closer” by Nine Inch Nails
- “Naughty Girl” by Beyonce

Get the songs from iTunes or a music service and play them directly off your computer or burn your song selection onto a CD and have it handy. You don’t want to go looking for your song selection when she’s hot and in the mood or else she might pop out of trance. Have it ready and handy for her.

That’s really all you need to get started.  If you’re not shy about it, your woman won’t be as shy either.  Guide her with a steady hand and make both of your fantasies come true.

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Great Pickup Artist Routines That Work

January 7th, 2010

A great way to build social value is through stories and pickup artist routines.

Planned stories and pickup artist routines free up your mind to focus on other things. Like a computer, your brain only has so many clock cycles spare.

Imagine you’re on your way to a bar or club and you’re getting yourself into a good state for approaching women. Now, imagine that you’re driving along the highway at the same time on the way there – a bit distracting. Now imagine your friend is in the passenger’s seat asking you about math problems.

There’s only so much that your brain can multitask at one time. And when you’re talking to women, there’s a LOT for your brain keep track of.

So you don’t want to bog yourself down in the middle of an interaction with the complex task of coming up with witty conversation pieces on the fly – especially when they can be prepared for ahead of time.

First, I’ll give you a few example pickup artist routines, and then I’ll show you how to use them.

My ex-girlfriend is stalking me pickup artist routine:

“I need your opinion… I think my ex-girlfriend is stalking me. She kept trying to win me back by impressing me, but she just doesn’t have that adventurousness I look for in a girl.

Well, I was walking down the street and I just see her there, standing across the street looking at me. Yeah, it’s kind of weird.

I think she’s trying too hard to impress me. She used to be kind of fat, but now she’s lost weight and has gotten breast implants… she kind of looks like that girl from the Bachelorette… have you seen it?

But I don’t want to get back with a girl just because she looks good. Let me ask you, which of you guys is most adventurous?

Start a band

You: Hey girls, I’m going to start a band. Can either of you sing?
You: Cool, you’ll be the back up singer
You: You’ll play guitar. Wait a sec… what are your names?
You: Tara and Buffy?? Nah, what are you kidding me, those names won’t work a band. Hmm… you’ll be Beyonce and you’ll be Brittany. Awesome! High-five me
You: Hold on, being in a band isn’t all fun and games though. Which one of you is going to be doing my laundry?
You: No? Well then, I’m firing you guys. But you can still be my groupies.

So have three pickup artist routines memorized and ready to go. Decide what order you’ll stack them. Having three routines ready to go frees up your brain to focus on your delivery.

For example, you might open a group of girls by asking an opinion question, then ask how everyone knows each other, and then talk about your stalking ex-girlfriend. The transitioning is rather simple – just leave the old topic and launch right into the new.

And once you tell a pickup artist routine, don’t wait for the girl’s permission to go on to the next one. Even if the girl only half-heartedly responded to the first routine, just launch into the next one. And the next. Most likely you’ll hit on one that grabs her.

You can also throw state accelerators into nearly any routine to give it an extra kick. State Accelerators are universal feel-good moves that accelerate the girls’ positive state. For example, giving a girl a high-five universally makes women feel good and can be incorporated into most routines.

If a girl tells you, “I want to be the drummer in your band,” just say “Awesome! See you’re cool. High-five!” and hold up your palm. High-five her. This accelerates the power of the routine.

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Hot Girl Gets Seduced, Overcoming Shit Tests

January 7th, 2010

A hot girl gets seduced by us, the ultimate goal! We’re going to talk about some roadblocks now. You may have the attitude and the moves – but there are always going to be twists thrown at you along the way to get a hot girl seduced.

Ever been stood up? Ever have a woman show up an hour late with little or no warning? Ever have a woman whine when she isn’t getting her way?

But sometimes women do this just to see what kind of man you REALLY are.

What this REALLY does is reveal who she’s dealing with. How do you react to the pressure? Do you get nervous or defensive? Do you bow your head, shrink your shoulders, and say “That’s ok, I was just wondering. Nevermind.”?

Oftentimes the hot girl getting seduced just wants to see if the confident face you’re presenting is for real. Women have many tests they use on men use tests to separate the wheat from the chaff.

If you want a hot girl getting seduced by you, don’t be thrown. Recognize it as a test, and don’t let it break your character.

Now, that doesn’t mean you get pushy. Lots of guys know they shouldn’t just cave in – but they swing too far the other way, and scare women off. You want to stay playful – like what she decides to do in any situation isn’t given huge importance in your life. You’re going to have fun regardless.

But if you make it clear that being boring, being difficult, or – worst of all – being (legitimately) bratty isn’t something you’re going to allow into your life, not only will you gain her respect and pass her tests, you’ll have to deal with such behavior a lot less.

For the most part, you want to keep the mood light and happy, but you DON’T want to back down OR get upset. Your attitude should be “I enjoy my life, and if you want to join the fun, you’re welcome – but if you’re going to throw drama my way or try to bring me down, I’ll look elsewhere for interesting people.”

For instance, I once had a woman I’d been seeing for about two weeks, when she emailed me a message saying she loved me, and asked if I loved her too. I responded playfully – made fun of her moving too fast like a horny high school boy.

She came back with “How could you sleep with me if you don’t love me?”

I responded “You’re getting way too serious. This is absolutely no fun at all.”

How’d it turn out? She wound up apologizing to me. If you START playful and you STAY playful, you can lose all the negative drama and have the hot girl get seduced much more easily than you think.

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Get Her Into Bed, Allay Her Fears

January 7th, 2010

To get her into bed, sometimes, despite all of your efforts to turn a woman on, when it comes down to the moment of sex, a woman still shuts herself down mentally.

To get her into bed don’t take it personally. Most likely the woman has legitimate concerns that worry her, preventing her from sleeping with you – even if she otherwise wants to.

Some women are extremely worried about the word getting out to their friends or family that they had sex and being labeled a “slut”. Other women are worried about catching a disease or getting pregnant… but they don’t want to ask you to wear a condom for fear of being a “slut”. Or they don’t even think to ask.

Or they really like you and they’re afraid that after sleeping with you, you’ll disappear from their lives. They fear that by sleeping with you, they’ll lose their power over you and they don’t want to give up that leverage.

Or the girl might be a virgin – and is simply scared of the whole unknown experience in general.

Although you can’t know specifically what her particular fear is, you can preemptively address and allay her possible fears with some heart-to-heart talk to get her into bed.

Simply hold her in your arms and tell her that you always wear a condom when making love to a woman so that she trusts she won’t catch anything or get pregnant. And tell her that you look forward to waking up with her tomorrow and that you don’t want her to look back on the experience with any regrets – implying that you won’t think of her as a slut for sleeping with you and that you won’t ditch her the very next day.

Again, you’re doing some “mind reading” here in the hopes of addressing her particular fears to get her into bed.

But guess what – it works. A little understanding and addressing a woman’s most common fears is often enough to make her comfortable enough to continue.

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How to Get Her Alone, Isolate Her

January 7th, 2010

How to get her alone is a critical question – you need to separate a girl from her friends.

When guys don’t isolate the girl from her friends, and try to build bond and connection right there in front of the girl’s group.

Here’s what happens: the guy builds attraction in front of the girl’s friends, screens and accepts the girl, and then starts going into bond and connection right there in front of the entire group.

Here’s the snag: if you try to build bond and connection one-on-one with a girl in front of her friends, her friends will try to stop you.

Remember, building bond and connection with someone WELL is primarily a one-on-one process. It’s an intimate interaction. 90% of your energy has to be focused on the person you’re building comfort and deep rapport with.

Meanwhile you have to ignore her friends, who just minutes ago you were entertaining. And her friends will quickly get BORED while you build bond and connection with the girl you like. They might even get JEALOUS.

They’ll want to win back your attention by interrupting and distracting you. They’ll try everything in their power to break up your one-on-one interaction with the girl you like and pull you back into the building social value phase. Or they might even pull your girl away from you and leave once they realize that they’re no longer the center of attention.

How to get her alone is pretty simple. Once you have social value with the girl and have screened and accepted her, isolate her from her friends! Just tell her, “Look, I have something cool to show you!” and take her by the hand and lead her away from her friends.

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